Given my martial arts training, I often find myself applying Aikido techniques, albeit verbally, when dealing with difficult project situations.

Essentially, Aikido allows you to defend yourself without injuring the attacker by redirecting the force of the attack instead of facing it head-on.

In working with others, “attacks” are synonymous with dissatisfaction, insubordination and resistance because they prevent you from moving forward unhindered.

Dissatisfaction: I’m not happy with this project!
Response: What can WE do to make it right?

Insubordination: I have major concerns. I won’t do it!
Response: How can WE address your concerns?

Resistance: I disagree with the approach!
Response: If you were to do it, what would be your approach?

You cannot face strong force with a similar force. Keep your cool and devise ways to transform the negative situation into a collaborative problem solving occasion.

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